Trust issues are very complex, it is like a secret code to decipher in life. We actually can’t trust anyone with full assurance of not being betrayed. Remember, people say “I don’t trust anyone” for a reason.
Why would you ever say “I don’t trust anyone?. Has a friend, a co-worker, family member, etc. advised you on why you should not trust anyone?. It is one of the hardest truths in life and it is like a bitter pill, you must take it to be on the safest side. Trust issues are very sensitive to many people. It is so hard to trust people around you. They could be friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, family members, coworkers, politicians, and strangers.
Often, we hear people say “trust me“, but you will get stuck between two big oceans making us question our conscience that “does it worth?. Personally, I prefer to believe in people than to trust them, and I hardly use the phrase “trust me”. I am simply not a fan of that, because I know I am fallible.
Difference Between Trust And Believe
Let me help you understand the difference between trust and believe. To believe means, you accept that something is true without any prove but to trust someone, you completely rely on that person with confidence.
Saying ‘I don’t trust anyone’ to yourself and people in your inner circle doesn’t mean you are paranoid. Safety first! you deserve the best for yourself.
Well, here I will discuss with you some of the reasons why you should not trust anyone. Although it is so hard to carry out in life, it does us a lot of good for the following reasons:
Reasons Why You Should Not Trust Anyone
1. Human Nature:
Human beings are not perfect, and so trusting in someone is like taking risk in your life. Our fallibility is something that cannot be erased from our lives.
It is a dangerous thing to trust in a fallible being. Imperfection is the reason you should not trust anyone. But is there anyone you can confide in on earth?. The only one I can assure you about is God and his son Jesus Christ because he is perfect. It is all about faith but not what you see.
To gain an unwavering faith for God, just read your bible. If someone tells you to “trust him”. First, bear in mind that he is imperfect so don’t rely on him too much. Before someone earns a fellow’s trust in our modern world he or she has to go through some level of tests to prove to you that he or she is at least reliable, even that is not 100% guaranteed.
2. Character Change:
One good reason you shouldn’t confide in anyone is the tendency of changes in people’s character. The person you are entrusting in can change his or her character at any moment.
So, why then trust him?. It would be better to believe him than to trust him so that when he compromises your trust you don’t feel so bad. I always tell my readers that people change behavior when they meet different people or change their environments.
If someone is so calm and can keep secrets, he might change when he meets different people or begin to make new friends. Friends or people can influence us to change our behavior or approach to certain situations. Don’t confide in people too much. Had I known is always at last. People just don’t say ‘I don’t trust anyone‘ for no reason.
Let’s say you are a girl you have a boyfriend you trust so much because you have spent a couple of years together. You trusted him so much that you rubbish every bad thing you hear about him. He becomes someone like a saint or an angel to you.
Well, what if he finds himself in a different environment, like getting a job at a different town or country?. There you would start becoming jealous for no good reason, knowing very well that there would be other women around who might lust after your boyfriend or probably date him.
That environment and new co-workers can have a greater influence on his character. If you trust too much, then you have to make yourself ready to face the consequences if that person you confides in compromises your trust.
3. The Unpredictable Nature of Strangers:
People you confide in can disappear at any point in time. This is very common with strangers. You meet a stranger and all of a sudden you start believing him… because he smiled at you, said sugar-coated words to you, promised to take you to heaven, and so on and so forth.
If you allow that person to earn your trust, in betrayal where are you going to find him?. Maybe, he is a scammer or an outcast. At least let your trust be expensive for everyone before they earn it. Don’t be gullible. In this modern world, do you think it is good to trust people?.
Many people have trusted strangers because of the kind of convincing words they used to lure them. The end result is very pathetic.
4. The Danger Zone:
Here, I call it the danger zone because it is about the negative effects of trust betrayal. I said earlier that before you even confide in anyone — make sure you can handle the consequences.
Some of the negative effects that can happen to you when someone betrays your trust include; a broken heart, mental disorder, emotional pains, sense of dejection and suicidal thoughts.
If someone compromises your trust it feels so painful that it can take your life away. Did I recommend you not to trust anyone?. Yes, I did. If you can handle any of the above consequences then you can go ahead and rely on him with your Life.
I actually don’t mean, there are no trustworthy people in this world. They are, but you would rarely see one. It is so hard, so to avoid any damages to your very life, avoid trusting people. If you want to trust someone, that is a form of risk-taking.
Make sure that person works hard to earn your trust and even that, you shouldn’t give him a hundred percent trust. Life is full of uncertainties.
Exemplary Lesson To Help Out Stay On The Safer Side
I watched a very interesting funny video. In the video, a man took his son to the field, made him climb a ladder and asked him, “do you trust me, son?”.”Yes, Dad!“, he responded.
Then the man said, “fall in my arm”. The son left himself off the ladder and the father left him to fall, saying; “you shouldn’t trust anyone”.
The kid was hurt and disappointed. But at the end of the day, he learned his lesson. That would be like a necklace around his neck and it will constantly remind him of what his father has taught him.
This lesson goes to all of us, even those people close to us could be dangerous. I mean snakes in the grass. You can’t trust them. Simply because they are human beings and can easily betray under broad daylight.
After breaking your trust, they will simply apologize and that apology can’t resolve the pains and damages inflicted on you. There is a local African proverb that goes like.
“You can’t look into a bottle with both eyes.”
Only one eye can do that and the other eye will be like a spare tyre. Just like it is advisable to have a spare tyre in your car, should if one gets burst on the road then you can replace it. That is a good idea not to trust your car tyres too much.
Sometimes, people tell us not to trust anyone. Judas betrayed Jesus Christ although he was part of his inner circle. He ate with him, talked with him, lived life together but at the end he betrayed Jesus.
Friends and everyone who is close to us actually know our strengths and weaknesses. They can capitalize on your weakness and harm you so easily. Thieves normally get tip-offs from someone close to the victim.
So, trusting people close to us is sometimes dangerous so far as you can’t read their minds. You are not a psychic, so why be sure that this very person doesn’t have bad thoughts of you and would never harm you.
Being A Distrustful Person Can Hurt/Save You
Sometimes an unpleasant past experience may compel you to become a distrustful person. Indeed the one that has been bitten by a snake takes to his heels whenever he sees a worm(An African proverb).
This kind of phobia is what psychologists call pistanthrophobia. It may be good to be extremely careful when putting your trust in people because when it becomes shattered — it could affect your whole life and make you antisocial which will breed depression and further worsen to your death. In an extreme situation like this, it would be advisable to see a psychologist for help.
While too much distrust is not good for your own intuition, it is advisable to calm down your emotions. Having a relationship with people is very important. Because naturally, we are a social being. Trust will not grow overnight but with a gradual process, it will develop.
With caution, you can survive any betrayal because I told you to keep a spare tyre in your car’s boot. It is as simple as this. Even in darkness, your own shadow vanishes. I mean trustworthy people are very rare like the Siberian tiger. You can only find them in the wild.
I hope you find the rare guys who are trustworthy and deserve your attention. They are the real gems… be vigilant and you can find them.
An Advice From Me
As human beings keep on being unpredictable you ought to think twice before you entrust in anyone in your life. We can’t always know what is hidden inside someone’s head. Not even a professional psychologist nor a psychic will always be able to figure out what the next guy closest to you has planned.
In all, we should always be careful and mindful of those who fall within our inner circles. These people know your strengths, weaknesses and even a number of your secrets. Their minds can change at any moment.
How funny it is to find out that; the person you are dating who is fond of saying “I love you” says the same thing to someone else(unfaithfulness).
From the Bible, Judas was Jesus Christ’s disciple. He betrayed him for no good reason. Man’s heart could be corrupted at any time. In the same way, the one you share your secret with — can sell you out someday.
It is necessary to pray for protection against harm, disappointment, and failure that may come your you. Trust God first and he will help you sieve all the fake people in your life.
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