Here Is Why It Is Not Good To Never Make A Promise

Can we actually live life without making a promise to anyone?.

Never make a promise

In one way or the other everyone has made a promise before but in this article I would like to share with you why I think it is not good to make a promise no matter the reason.
Firstly,situation arises in our lives and these situations could be pleasant or unpleasant.I remember reading a proverb that says “never make a promise when you are happy”.And the explanation goes like; when you are happy you lose focus of reality or what is happening around you,out of joy you can do anything silly and it is similar to someone who is drank.Almost everything he sees or says is full of illusion.Someone who promises out of situational happiness is likely to fail fulfilling  his promise.He might promise today and finds it difficult to honour that promise because the following day had been a different moody moment,maybe a bad situation would crop up in his life and it could be marital problems,work
problem,depression, or any form of bad news.Each day has a story for us and since tomorrow is not assured it is advisable to get away with promises but rather hope for the best with prayers.It is therefore advisable to use the statement “God willing” than making a promise straight away.Failure to fulfill a promise could be harmful to the person you failed to impress as you had thought earlier.

 In my view,I believe avoiding
promises no matter your mood would be a great thing in life.
Let us consider the fact that sometimes we even fail to fulfill promises made to ourselves.I do hate promises although in all my life I have tried my best to fulfill every kind of promise I make to people close to me or far away and that hadn’t been easy.After realising the tendencies of failing a promise and its effects of failure is very huge and serious I decided to get away with promises.Never make a promise.

Assuming you have a workload to get it done as soon as possible and
so you promise yourself to get it done by tomorrow morning.Fatigue could set in,and in this case you would have to stop and rest or you could be interrupted by something far more important than what you have promised to do.Remember you cannot manipulate time to your own advantage so the
following morning will come and you would still be working in what you thought you could finish earlier before.Again you could promise your self to support someone financially and at the end deducting that amount you promised from your capital could become a tug of war.You could also fail your own promises in may ways and so why then would you promise a third person whiles sometimes you do fail yourself.It is a dangerous thing to make someone reckon on you.

Some people also find themselves making a promise with blood and that is one of the most serious promises anyone can make.Here the promise becomes a covenant which ties both of you spiritually and physically. It is popularly known as “blood covenant”, and anyone who does that is ;

1. Exposed to direct Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD s).

 2. Making an everlasting spiritual ties with the one you made a blood promise with, and usually this kind of promise would take a lot of spiritual cleansing methods to break it completely.

In the event when the relationship that ushered you into blood promise breaks it becomes a burden on both couple.”A broken promise” which will never make the spiritual ties break.It is as strong  as sexual energies which intertwines two or more spirits together.It is therefore a risky step to take because no one can tell what tomorrow brings and human beings are unpredictable and so fully trusting in a human being is a dangerous thing.I don’t advice that,it would be good to fully trust in God.The consequences of broken promises made in relationships could be madness or death.Oh yes!, many of the broken-hearted women end up being mad from a supposed kind of love, and the dangerous one as I always say is making a promise with blood.

However,some people are also discreet enough to honor promises but since they are humans, imperfection is part of their lives and so it is not all promises that they can honor. It would be good then for such people to make  possible promises but not biting what they can’t chew.

I believe as time unfolds, anything  for you would surely be on your side and you shouldn’t make a mistake by promising.I wouldn’t ever reckon on any promise made to me but to live my normal life each day without expectation of anything from anyone.This is one of the secrets that makes me happy.William Shakespeare said ” I always feel happy.”You know why?”.Because I don’t expect anything from anyone!.Expectations always hurts…”. Indeed expectation hurts and so why would you give someone all your trust and expect him to hold you always from falling. This person could make a promise with blood that he would never let you fall apart,but a time would come this same person would feel tired and leave you to fall.So, now there is a problem we all need to try finding a lasting solution to.Believe or not,it is not a good idea to make a promise or reckon on a promise made to you. Making a promise is just by mere words so I don’t draw my attention to that.In this case when someone honors or dishonors a promise  it wouldn’t have any great impact in  my life although it would sound tremendous for someone fulfilling a huge promise made to you.Action speaks louder than words.In the course of the promise, it is advisable to live your normal life without that expectation so should if that promise fails to materialise then it wouldn’t have great impact on you that could send you to the hospital bed or the psychiatric hospital.

Enjoy life each day as nature bestows on you and know that everything happens for a reason so you have to embrace it.It is natural but to embrace a promise with all your heart is unnatural and dreadful.You can’t assure a promise you made to yourself 100% because time changes, event changes, people changes so never expect a 100% fulfilment of any promise made to you.When you take your mind off that promise you wouldn’t feel hurt when the promise materialise or not,although you would be the happiest person on earth the moment that promise becomes a reality but it is not something guaranteed for you.Never make a promise.

A Lesson From The Parable of The Compassionate Father(The Prodigal Son) – Luke 15:11 – 32

When anyone regrets in life it is advisable to learn from past mistakes like the prodigal son

The prodigal son and his merciful father
The merciful father welcomes his son

The story of the prodigal son as told by Jesus in Luke 15:11-32 has a lesson for all of us, especially those who once refused to adhere to advice.Many of us heard this very parable or story at a younger age and the impression is heart-touching. I do remember reading a well-printed book about the prodigal son with very good descriptive photographs. Yes!,you know kids like beautiful graphics in stories.This has left an unforgettable memories in my life so today I feel the need to share with you the moral lesson behind this parable.Jesus Christ was actually iterating about how sinners could end up in heaven only “if” they repent.Before that he taught about the parable of the lost sheep and the coin.They all denote the same meaning.It is never too late to make amends for past mistakes just like the prodigal son who led a regretful life before he came to his senses.

Now here is the parable; It all happened when Jesus Christ was eating and drinking with sinners and tax collectors whiles he teaches them the gospel on how they can gain salvation but the Pharisees and other experts in the law backlash Jesus for dinning with sinners.These Pharisees were self-conceited and arrogant people. They love themselves and their welfare only but Jesus used parables to prove to them how possible it is for a sinner to enter the kingdom of God.In this world,there are many people who have lived a regretful life and thinks that is the end of their world but when that very person read parables like this,he has to find it inspirational enough to correct past mistakes.

Jesus told the parable in this way; there lived a rich man with his two sons,the little one requested for his share of his father’s wealth to travel far away to enjoy life the way he wants and this compassionate father  divided his wealth between them.The little one set off with his part to a far distance.He misused the money on women and other pleasures of life.This parable  made me understand that money can make a fool of people by blind folding them from reality.His money got finished and there was a great famine, finding it difficult to eat he sought for  a job.His  job was to take care of pigs.Looking broke and hungry in life the prodigal son ate some of the husk fed to the pigs.Life was then teaching him a lesson by making him acknowledge his foolishness.Living a regretful life he said to himself “…how many of my father’s hired workers have food enough to spare,but here I am dying from hunger!.I will get up and go to my Father and say to him ” Father,I have sinned against heaven and against you” (Luke 15:17-18).

He was feeling ashamed of his life and decided to go home at all cost because he has become an outcast.There is a popular saying that goes like “home sweet home”.He thought in his mind that when he reaches home he deserves the kind of level and treatment of his father’s hired workers.While he neared home his father saw him at a distance and his heart was felt with joy so he run to his son hugged and kissed him.This son said to his father that he doesn’t deserves “a son” for he has sinned against heaven and his father. With such a remorseful feeling he was simply ashamed of himself for making such a big mistake in life.But his father never felt annoyed for his son’s failure.Instead he requested his son be dressed nicely by his slaves.They put a ring on his finger and changed his sandals. The whole house rejoiced with music and celebration because this compassionate father made his slaves kill the fattened cow for the prodigal son.As the celebration went on the elder son returned from work in the field,he heard the celebration and called one of the slaves asking him what was going on and the slave told him “your brother has returned and your father has killed the fattened cow because he got his prodigal son back and safe”.I believe this news would angry anyone else because it doesn’t sound good and it never sounded good to the elder brother so he became angry and so he refused to go in.But this compassionate father appealed to him to understand that his little brother who had lived a regrettable life has come home safely.The elder brother lamented that he had been obedient all years working like a slave but his father never sacrificed even a little cow for him.He didn’t appreciate “finding something precious that once got lost”.The merciful  father made him understand that everything he owns belong to him,he had been with his father always and as an elder son he is the first and direct heir to his father.

Today,many people take the wrong paths and upon regretting they feel too ashamed and pompous to accept their failure so with guilty conscience they try to move ahead in the same  wrong path which is very dangerous. The end point would be and end to his life and salvation as well.It is never too late to go “home” and reconcile with yourself and everyone you have offended just like what the prodigal son did.How on earth would anyone find true happiness when you move around with guilty conscience?,lest you clear it out of your mind by taking the proper steps.Anyone who becomes arrogant to accept mistakes and make amends fools himself to his early grave.

Moral:Life offers us with many choices and since we are all fallible, it is unwise to adjudge or condemn  anyone who deviates in life and if you adjudge let it be constructive enough to put the person on his toes.His deviation is  temporal and so  finding solace in life is very high. Jesus made it clear that the kingdom of God  is possible for everyone including sinners or those who have deviated in life.It is always possible until the person in  question dies without repentance. In view of this I prefer and would recommend every believer to pray for all those who have deviated in life for world pleasures like the “prodigal son” and surely God and his angels would rejoice when the lost one repents.As I end this article,I would like to tell everyone that there are rewards for every good thing you are doing even if you don’t see it now like the elder brother of the prodigal son there is no need of lamenting for you reward and blessings would come from above even when you die you would still have your reward awaiting for you.

On the other hand parents or elders in our communities should show compassion like the merciful father of the prodigal son because to “err is human” and no one is perfect except God.Forgive any sins committed against you by your children or anyone at all.With that,God will open the floodgate of heaven and bless you abundantly with more riches,strength and long life.It cost nothing to forgive.Amen.

Have You Ever Thought Of Knowing About The Sweetest Or The Happiest Thing In life?

The happiest thing in life is what almost everyone is searching for.Read this article to find out the truth behind

The sweetest and the happiest thing in life
Happy life

Have you ever thought of finding about the happiest thing on earth?.I have, and in this article I will share with you.There are many assumptions about what is the only thing that uniquely make one puts a big smile on his face.Imagine I ask you “what is the sweetest thing on earth?.”Now I got you contemplating and I know exactly  what is running in your mind.

Before I show the sweetest thing on earth, be honest with me; did you get a dirty mind toward that question?.At least 2/3 of my readers will get dirty first.I have been fascinated on several occasions by asking friends this very interesting question and their answers are funny enough to make you laugh to crack your ribs.

With the first and most given answer from my friends is “Sex”.Yeah,I knew these guys will say sex as the greatest answer to my controversial question “what is the sweetest thing on earth?”.But I will say to them that is wrong!.Yes sex is not the sweetest thing on earth nor the happiest thing on earth.Sex might be the sweetest thing ever,but from my point of view it is not sex as many think.It takes too different people before sex becomes possible.And this actually last for few minutes.The next answers from friends are most equally the same as sex.

After telling my lovely friends that sex is not the sweetest thing, I make them look so confused and curious about what I believe it is the sweetest thing.Yes,I can see you are also anxious.The second most answers I get is “sugar”.Oh no sugar is not the answer.Sugar indeed is sweet and has the abilities to make foods,teas,porridges, and other food items sweet.It is therefore the essence in which sweetness evolves but the situation here is not satisfied by sugar.Life is a whole complex network made up of different ideologies,preferences,beliefs,feelings and its kind of social gratifications.We all like sugar but when sugar becomes too much in our bodies the effect is very destructive, you may fall prey to the chronic disease called diabetes.And in this case I don’t think the sweetest or happiest thing on earth would be harmful when consumed in greater quantities.So sugar too is not the answer I am looking for.

After marking sugar wrong, my friends normally seem short of answers.Contemplating and staring at me with big question marks on their faces make me smile.This is actually a riddle time and I knew if I even put thousands of dollars on,no one will get it right.I guess as you read my post you are thinking of what the right answer might be. But before I say the answer I would like to keep on sharing with you some of the funny and interesting answers I have from my friends.

Quickly from sugar they change the anser to “honey”.Oh uh, that is also wrong.Sugar and honey almost have the same qualities despite that honey has some qualities of medicinal purposes.Honey is sweet but not the sweetest thing on earth.

Another interesting answer I usually get is ”money and wealth”.Money and wealth, really?.I dont think so and that is not the answer either.Many people on earth together believe owning huge amount of money and wealth is the happiest thing or sweetest thing in life but in  this very article, it is never true.Money has the abilities to buy almost everything except life.If you are filthy rich and you are on sick-bed dying, your money has zero chance of making you happy.A rich man’s wealth or money can’t save him from death and neither can it save any of his families or friends from death.If  it takes money and wealth  for a happy life it would mean millions of people in this world would never be happy or feel the sweetest thing in life.I want anyone reading this post to know that, money is hard to get and we live in a world where the number of people living beneath the expenditure of normal standard of living is higher.Poor people far outweigh the number of rich men in our various communities,cities and countries.If it should take money for people to have a taste of the sweetest thing in life then millions wouldn’t have any taste of the sweetness in life or throughout the rest of their natural lifes.So if your answer is money and wealth then you are wrong.The most happiest thing in life shouldnt be expensive.

Now,we draw closer to the right answer to “what is the sweetest thing in life? or what is the happiest thing in life?”.It shouldn’t surprise you to know it takes little things to taste the sweetest thing in life.Many people,including my friends never doubted nor argued when I revealed the answer to them.I know you feel itchy for this golden answer I have held for long but before I tell you in the next paragraph let me share a piece of advise with you.Sometimes people try to find the best way of being happy in life,they could search everywhere on this earth but would never be able to find it.They then become gullible to unscrupulous men making them fall into temptations that will derail them from life.Do not be deceived,the happiest thing in life is not money as many people think.Some have died chasing money even at places where they are not supposed to go.There is a local African proverb that says “if you search through the eyes of corpse you see maggots”.There is noting better there.

If the happiest thing in life is not sugar,honey,sex nor money and wealth then it is what and I have held for so long?.Now, listen attentively,the very thing we search for at far distances are always within our reach and just under our noses.After considering many factors in life I found out that the happiest thing in life or the sweetest thing in life is when you wish your dreams come true at any moment in your life and surely that dream materializes.I would be happy to know your reaction in the comment box below.I need to explain this a little further.In life we set many goals to meet,we dream to see it come true and sometimes we even doubt how our dreams become feasible.Imagine you have written applications for employment on several occasions but finally you had a call “Mr./Mrs…. you are to start working with us from Monday….” and that call came after you had lost hope. Can you imagine the ecstasy of joy that will overwhelm you?.Could a moment like this not be the sweetest thing in life?.Again, someone could wish for something he is passionate about by giving out his full support.Example is wishing your football team wins a particular match and surely that wish comes true.I believe you would be very happy.And then again lets take it like you want to have something that you really need but in all your life you can’t afford but all of a sudden someone gifts you with that very thing you have been in need of.Noting is sweeter than this.I believe you understand my point of view now.There are many forms that become the sweetest or the happiest thing in someone’s life and that leaves a kind of unforgettable memories.

What could be sweeter in life than a woman accepting your proposal after a very long time, testing your patience and genuiness?.You might lost yourself in the process of celebration before it becomes possible to have the actual date together.

In a situation where,you think finding the sweetest thing in life is hard for you, just do anything that puts smile on your face but make sure you challenge your self to the highest level.Example is playing games you like and breaking new grounds to reach the highest level.You will realise anytime you break a new ground to reach a new level that feeling becomes your happiest moment.

For my fellow Christians,with an idea of finding joy in God there is noting sweeter than that to have your dreams come true.It could be in the form of an answered prayer.For example,let us assume that you  a barren woman and have tried every means necessary to conceive but it has all proved futile but your faith in God and your persistence in prayer  made your request  answered as you had wanted, and you finally become pregnant.How would you feel?,could that not be the sweetest thing in your life.

I actually want everyone to know that the sweetest thing in life could take in any form that fulfills your dreams or goals and it is not limited to any particular trend.It is all about seeing something go according to your plan or wish.There are many more examples to think of and all these moments put smiles on your face leaving everlasting and sweet memories in your entire life.

Considering the other side of the coin,the sweetest or the happiest thing in life could be the “destructive” part of a goal or wish for someone.Here is something important I want everyone to take note of what I detest very much in life.There are certain people in life who rejoice over the down fall of their friends or other people and surely that would be the sweetest thing in their lives because that very person has his wish fufilled.There are a lot of destructive approaches people use to taste the sweetness of life and it could be assassination,false witness,lies and any form of sabotage.Here,when we take a good look in a broader perspective we could see that all the above major points I raised that many people and my friends believe is the sweetest thing in life (sugar,honey,sex,money and wealth) will come under the answer being “fulfilment of goals or wishes”. Some people do evil in a way that make them happy and they are exceptional.I dislike them anyway.

Life is amazing in many ways and the poorest person on earth at some point in his life tastes the sweetest thing in life.It could be an appreciation alms given to him by a stranger,finding,cramps of food or a shelter etc.There is another thing I want everyone to take note of, and that is when you lose,someone else also gains and when you gain, someone else somewhere also loose.A clear example is someone who has lost his money,he shall surely feel bitter and on the other hand the person who finds the lost money would surely be happy and that could be the happiest thing in his life.So I personally don’t like to complain about lost items or opportunities because as a Christian I believe everything happens for a reason.Now the question is finally answered, do you have any comments,feedbacks or contributions?

Feel free to drop them in the comment box and don’t forget to share this article with friends.


Here Is Why We Are Characterized By Different Behaviours

In this world, character traits has a lot of influences on our behaviours and relationships.

Character traits

The mystery behind why we all came to this planet called “earth” is differently interpreted according to various types of religions, traditions and other beliefs. It could be personal or group of people sharing the same ideologies of being born on this earth.However, the moment one is born he or she is automatically rendered a nationality, religion,race, name,family and this person will spend the rest of his life defending it.None of us made any choice to live here on earth but here we are living life together despite our differences. Have you ever thought of why you came into existence?. I believe there are good reasons  for us  here.I am a Christian and my belief is to  glorify the Lord in everything I do,since I am immortal my lifespan is barely up to a century.Many people have come and gone,some were very dear to us,some were friends and some were just known to us as acquaintances,we will never see them on earth again.

As we begin to grow from infancy to adulthood we become surrounded by many responsibilities starting from home,families,societies schools, work places and such likes.The most interesting part of growing from infancy is what our parents teach us because they are the immediate people we come into contact with before any other people or  class. As this popular saying “charity begins at home”.Kids  are fast learners and  so whatever you teach them  becomes part of their lives.Some of us actually had strict parental control and whatever they taught us has become part and parcel of us.Very essential disciplines like good manners,decency, etiquettes and other interpersonal approaches are relevant in our daily life activities.

When one is properly brought up ,he demonstrates that for everyone to acknowledge  his behaviour.It would interest you to know some educated people lack good manners or etiquettes despite their degrees or qualifications.In a world of seven million people with different backgrounds it worths to treat everyone equally with the same respect given to people attaining high positions. People use their tongues to bless and curse as well, so why not be cautious when treating a fellow human biegn.Some of the many people we see around us have different spirits,some could be witches and wizards,some could be mermaids,some could be gods disguised in human form.You migth look physically strong but what about your spirituality?,have you weighed your spiritual life to know you can fight against,demons,witches, principalities and rulers of darkness?.These creatures can destroy your work,marriage and every opportunity or blessings in your life.In the case of those who don’t believe in spiritually, that is your choice but it doesn’t mean spirits aren’t real.Africa for instance is known to have a lot of witchcraft and spiritualists. Whether you like it or not our spiritual make up has great influence in our daily lifes.No one owns this world,now,today nor tomorrow, you could be gone.The beauty of life is to smile along with your fellow human.Tomorrow is never promised so we Christians believe it is just by the “grace” of God that we wake up alive each day.There is a saying that ” what goes around comes around”, so I expect people to treat me the way I treat my neighbour.The bible has made it clear that you reap what you sow and that is factual. You can never run away from doing evil.Buddhists have a similar teachings popularly known as “karma”.

The beauty of life depends on how we see things individually, some wouldn’t be impressed by anything good you do,hey! you shouldn’t worry about that because the problem isn’t you,the problem is the person not seeing anything good you do.Probably that person is lacking the sense of humanity. Who knows?, it could be that the one refusing to appreciate your endeavours is suffering from depression or a mental disorder. Scientists have made us know that madness or mental problems varies from mild to a higher level and so it is not everyone we see around who is mentally fit, the main difference is that he is not roaming in the street. In view of that doctors  recommend regular mental check ups for all of us.

In furtherance,everyone has a character trait that defines the common behaviours in particular groups of families.People are characterised by what they learn from their immediate  families, we live life according to  what we learn from  the house, in addition to that of our environments,schools,work places and other institutions.People do change often when exposed to different environments and we either learn new things that are good or bad for our lifes.Human behaviour is not subjected to experiment so the “John” you know today might be a different “John” tomorrow about behavioural patterns. Yes,it is true people normally change when they meet different people and it does happen in marriages or relationships.It finally breeds infidelity and other odd behaviours toward the other spouse or lover.It is also said that you can never change the behaviour of anyone, in this case the only option is to live  life according to the taste or preference of your spouse and he or she would also be in good terms with you  to live life beautifully together.The reason people do not change is what I talked about earlier;the immediate  environment (home/family) has shaped the behaviour of that person in question that his or her behavioural patterns can never be altered.From my observations, I believe certain people have their behavioural patterns through hereditary or character traits, it is in their genes and you can’t change that unless maybe the person restricts himself to behave in a certain many ways and with that I think it is logical but it will certainly take a lot of conscious efforts. Some of us have entered into relationships whereby the one we claimed we love always portrayed strange behaviours but every effort made to mould this very person becomes futile. Just like one particular situation that happened to me few years ago.She was quick-tempered, materialistic, cheater and destructive woman and all the years spent trying to mould her proved futile.The lofty aim of having a  beautiful life together turned into smoke.So the question is who felt broken-hearted?. Not me anyway because I understood she wasn’t the right one .Now you see,any woman who exhibits incorrigible behaviours in marriage and relationship disgraces herself and to a lager extend her family(parents) because the  parents have always been  the immediate environment to train up every child.Just like what the bible says;”train up a child and when he grows he will never leave from  it”. We all have stories to share and so you can share yours in the comment box at the end of this article.

Everyone dreams of having a beautiful life on earth but encountering or having relationships with the wrong people  kills this dream outright. Apart from relationships,I would like to talk a little more on work places. Some of us find ourselves working in big institutions that have hundreds of people. These people are from different backgrounds,religions,races etc. with different character traits altogether and their daily movements, administrations, talks and other decisions affects us.A good manager with good behavioral patterns put smiles on the faces of  a lot of workers,not all workers because in life there is always, backbiters, enemies of progress, and people who always show resentments no matter how good things look.On the other hand when an uncultured manager handles a company or institution, almost every one frowns and at the same time certain class of people would be found smiling.Now you see how amazing life is?.So it is always good to find your rhythm or preference; I mean discover yourself by knowing the kind of people who worth your friendship,help or co√∂peration. Surely, you can’t please everyone who gets close to you.Again no one can make you happy or help you live a beautiful life but you yourself.If you keep on waiting for someone before you step up you might wait throughout the rest of your natural life on earth. You hold the key to your happiness and  so you can decide whom to open up the door to enter and who also  deserves your shut.

Responsibilities are inevitable, so you have to embrace them without any complain but it is good for us all to behave in  responsive ways in our houses,work places,institutions and wherever we find ourselves.And again,you should never forget you would  be held accountable for your actions and inactions. Decision  making has its  own consequences and repercussions.

My advice is; always think twice before making crucial decisions because one simple decision could ruin your whole life.Assuming you feel the urge of stealing something at your exposure that you really need but there is no money in your  pocket.Here you have two choices and each has its reward.People have been nuisance to their communities since they were born,some too because of peer pressure they involve themselves in  crime and all sorts of illegal activities.To err is human but to deliberately decide to choose evil against good is inhuman. The prisons we see today is full of criminals and other offenders, some are also innocent. Situations plunged them into such harsh conditions that has made their rights restricted.There is noting like beautiful life in prison. As I further this side of life,it could be considered pleasant if we  compare that to death. Certain decisions of people ended in their deaths.There is always hope no matter how worse your situation is,the only hopeless situation is when you are dead.It is therefore good to learn lessons from past mistakes by making amends. I have one friend  who is a prisoner in the Washington Correctional Centre. He is serving a four-year service and it really griefs me for just allowing his imprisonment for the second time.His name is Kenny. I understand that place is very lonely and odd.He is looking for friends who can write him occasionally via the post or jpay and so if any one want to communicate with him let me know as I will give you his postal address.For the meantime here is his prison number, 736427 and you can use that to find him on jpay. Maybe you can inspire him or just put a smile on his face.

Our behaviour always have influence on us whether you believe or not,what is beautiful than having peaceful  mind,good marriage and family.I don’t want to include money because happiness is not measured by money.Without money people can still be happy.When you get water to drink every day,eat every day, get a place to sleep every day and even have other  utilities in your house you are far better than millions of people in this world who even find it hard to get common water to drink. If you can’t appreciate that then I’m sorry for you.

Death strips us naked from every thing we have so why fight for wealth or use your pen to steal money from your workplace.As you  involve yourself in bribery and corruption or any questionable act you must face the consequences. I take responsibilities for my actions and inactions because I believe I deserve it,should I break any law and I’m imprisoned,that would be fair enough.Someone would asked why I have talked too much and wondering what I am actually driving at.I am sharing my thoughts and making it known to all my readers that “charity begins at home” and parent are solely responsible for shaping  or grooming their children to give meaningfully to our various societies when they grow.

As we choose  law-abiding approach and become  responsive people, then we could surely live in a world full of beautiful life.The devil is always working hard to bring separations,confusions,fights,hatred and destructions into our lives. But with prayers and faith in God every obstacle or stumbling stone would be broken. They never-never want our happiness because he(the devil)is full of lies and with his craftiness he plunges people into difficult situations. Those who try to earn quick money through the devil’s manipulations doesn’t  work well for them.I like to cite examples from Africa because I am an African and that is where I was born. Many young guys in Africa lust for quick success and so they go in  for blood money.Some are having  huge monies in their wardrobes now and then but there is noting like “happy life” or “beautiful life” for them because they have to make periodic  sacrifices for the money giving-god.The god can shorten their lives  the moment they fail to fulfill the atonement they are to do. This is not the kind of beautiful life I am talking about.

Character formation is very necessary for every parent to give it to their children.I am privileged to have a noble character that defines me anywhere I go.Assuming everyone on this earth is well-trained up to obey simple societal rules,norms and acquire good interpersonal approach, the rate of conflicts,hatred and abuse in our societies would surely cut. I dislikes people who are recalcitrant and egocentric.

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Know How To End The Fear Of Falling In Life

In  this world  fear haunts many people who are afraid of falling in life.This article addresses it all.

Fear of falling in life

First and foremost, my sincere apologies to africanparadiseworld.com readers and suscribers.I intend to use the said domain to  share my passion about life just to inspire everyone, especially those who become fed up in life easily.I believe by reading my inspirational messages and stories you will be puting smiles on your face always. You can keep on following  my blog or stop  as it is in your own interest.However, this is my first post since I decided  to publish on a different niche.

Sometimes people ask me “do you get afraid in life?”.And my answer is simply “No”.My answer  certainly seems strange but it is something unique that defines me and I believe sharing it with my readers would help put a lot of people on their toes and after everything you thank me later. Hope I can see you smiling and looking curious.Being afraid hasn’t been part of my life for several years now and honestly speaking, it has helped me a lot.One major secret is my believe in God.As a christian, I have shown much interest to research to know about God’s salvation plan for me and reading the bible has a lot of inspiring messages for me and every believer. You can try reading the books of psalms, ecclesiastics and proverbs and you would find out my secret.Being afraid of life hasn’t been my thing. Failure is good for everyone and I will explain this in a different paragraph.These books I have mentioned above inspires me a lot.King David and his son Solomon who is the wisest man ever to live wrote those books.Yes!,Solomon happens to be the wisest man ever to live.He saw and felt all the pleasures on earth and so his messages are what kills every doubt in me. Indeed,I will iterate that fear does not exist but danger is what exist in our lives. Why am I saying this?.Fear is full of allusions and it cripples your inner spirits maybe you have faced a lot of challenges  but today I want to tell you that you should never be afraid of falling in life.It is just an illusion and I believe you will side with me on that.As a christian, I never become afraid of the most terrible thing on earth which is “death”.So if I am not afraid of death then why should I be afraid of anything illusional?.The spirit that lives in me belongs to God,he opens and no one shuts,he shuts and no one opens. He is my protector and so he is the only one I am afraid of.Since he is with me always I feel highly spirited,  “even though I walk through the valleys of shadows of death I shall fear no evil for you are with me”(…psalms 23).Now let me tell you something about “danger” as well.Personally, I believe danger is real but the greatest antidote to danger is self precaution.Example is someone who works at the mines, you know there are  too many occupational hazards and you refuse to wear safety boots,helmets and gloves. Meanwhile  you are aware of the realities of being injured,some injuries are even fatal to result in deaths. The same thing applies to someone who is a scientist and works in his laboratory without gloves and other protective materials. Again,lets consider someone who sees road signs on his way and refuses to adhere to the warning.The probability of you being endangered is awfully high and bad.There are more examples to cite but I will stick with the three. So am I then trying to tell you not to find yourself being afraid of danger?.My answer is still  “no”.There is no good reason for being afraid in life.Danger is something we are all aware of and so there are preventive or protective measures to keep us safe.Life in general is unpredictable, but if you are not afraid of death like me you would always smile to your grave because as a christian I believe I am just a traveler on earth and there is an everlasting place somewhere for me after my passage to the next world.Soldiers for instance are always not afraid of death as I once asked a friend of mine who is a member of the US Navy.”Have you ever been afraid of death?”.He answered me “never”.In his explanation he said he is always ready to fight and so death has never scared him but his mum says he sounds crazy.I asked him about his religion or spirituality and he told me  being a Navy officer  in America not allowed to show religious  tendencies as that would likely undermine your concentration to battle or dedicated yourself to the Navy service.Thumps up for anyone who is not afraid of death or failure because that is one good way carry out your goals without being bogged down by fears or any form of intimidation.

Life is full of challenges and surely you have to face it,whether you are ready or not there is no “No option” for you.You only have “Yes” as an option because the moment you choose “no” that means you are ready to enter your  graveyard and even that you would suffer before you take your last breath. Your suffering could be emotional,spiritual or mental.The reason I am saying this is; the moment you choose “no” then you have allowed anything evil to consume you.The bible has stated that the hand that refuses to work shouldn’t eat anything.This sounds more proverbial but  it is very understandable. If you can challenge yourself for something better why not go ahead?.No one is born perfect.A genius like Albert Einstein  wasn’t a perfect man as he said “anyone who hasn’t failed before has never tried anything new”.There are countless benefits in failure that are helpful in building a successful life.Don’t be surprised at my saying because I will expatiate this for everyone’s basic understand.When I was in primary I learnt a poem entitled “Try again”, and I do remember certain important stanzas like this; 

Try again

This is a lesson you should heed

Try again

If at first you don’t succeed

Try again

Then your courage should appear

If you persevere you will conquer

Never fear

Try again

I wish I could remember all because it is such a great poem to light up the “can do spirit” in everyone.I will simply Laugh it off if anyone tells me he is afraid of life or afraid of falling in life.I am naturally an optimist and I like to share my passion with people around me especially those who are down-hearted.Now let us consider someone like Helen  Keller,I got to know about her  in my childhood days when reading from the library.Honestly she has been  one of my favourite mentors.Maybe you will ask “who is Helen Keller?”. Helen Keller was born in Alabama in the United  States,when she was about One and half years old she contracted a very rare disease making her blind and deaf. Despite her disabilities she was able to attend college,became an activist for deaf people and women’s rights. She is known as the pioneer of some of the deaf sign languages we know today. She could listen  to music by feeling the beat, she could feel her environment through touching as part of her leisure hours.Helen Keller was able to write her own books and some of them are “The Story of My Life” and her autobiography “My religion”.She traveled to more than 20 countries delivering her inspirational messages.America has celebrated his legacies annually. She was a lecturer, political activist and an author. She wasn’t limited by her disabilities. Now,do you still have reasons for being afraid of life?.I don’t think so,I guess.

Life is always challenging and so you have no choice but  to face it. Life isn’t for sissies,so to arise above your problems you shouldn’t give up, just be persistent.I would like to iterate the fact of failure being a good source of success, unless you give up on your lofty dreams.One secret thing I have known is that, when you fail at something; it could be exams,job,or a kind of project you are aspiring to accomplish.When you fail you have to keep trying before you finally make it.But it would be unwise to make use of the same approach you used that made you fail,change the methods.This lesson is similar to how the eagle is always a winner in terms of flying successfully and avoiding setbacks.Whiles all other birds fly beyond the clouds and get soaked with rains,the eagle flies beyond the clouds to avoid the rains and that is interesting.Again the eagle is wise enough to change the battle ground when fighting with dangerous animals like snakes.The snake is vulnerable in the air so the eagle takes it into the sky to defeat it.Should in case the story of Helen Keller didn’t inspire you much,I would like us to consider the life of Thomas Edison, the man who invented the light bulb.He encountered a number of challenges but he never gave up.He was fired from his two early jobs, and then again his teacher degraded him using  derogatory words on him saying, he was nothing good, in quote “too stupid to learn anything”. Despite all of this he was able to make something better out of his life.He used 1,000 different  materials before he was able to invent the light bulb.I reapeat 1,000 different materials. Now,you see how it is good to taste failure. Edison then said he never failed but he found 1,000 ways that didn’t work. If he had been afraid of failing or falling in life he wouldn’t have been able to meet his lofty aim but perseverance is what made him successful. Yes!, you too can make it and I will always laugh it off if you keep on telling me you are afraid of life or failure. Fail and learn your lessons and you will surely make it through.

A friend of mine,Kev Rice(resident in United Kingdom) shared some of his life experiences with me and he felt like there was noting to keep secret from me even before we became good friends.His challenges became  a huge burden on him and after knowing his pains,I simply encouraged and prayed for him.We could spend hours at late night chatting on “Whatsapp”  sharing life lessons together. He once asked me “So if the devil whispers to you that you are afraid of the storm would you say you are the storm?”.Before that I had sent him a picture message about not being afraid of life,nor the storm.His question made me smile and with my usual answer “I am the storm”. Kev made too many mistakes in life,he is a professional plumber, and karate was his favourite sport .He ascended to the highest rank in the karate hierarchy.He was inspired by the lifestyle of Bruce Lee,I like Bruce Lee as well so we happened to share that kind of interest together, but being consumed by the world he finally lost the sense of life after gambling and involving himself in cocaine intake. At the end he ended up being incarcerated for a couple of weeks over one misunderstanding between him and his brother.He kicked on the ribs of his bother out of anger.The brother got fatally injured from broken ribs, he died and. Manslaughter was his charge.His father also died out of grief and his incorrigible life.His life actually became miserable, loosing a lot of money and facing the side effect of cocaine intake plus some complicated disease. He went to the rehab and things became a little better for him.I really like him because he was remorseful and accepted all the consequences and the repercussions of his inactions. We have lost contact for about a year now and I am using this medium to send him my greetings and should if he finds himself reading this article I know he will get in touch and if any of my readers know him please let me know.Kev is a tattoo nerd as well as.He has  tattoos on several parts of his body depicting his lifestyle, and every tattoo has its own meaning.I remember asking him ” If you I tell you to stop tattooing for the sake of God would you”?.He responded ” why not?”.He was ready for salvation because life has really taught him a lesson that he will never ever do such mistakes again.

Looking around this global world I could see  a lot of people who are fighting against depression and fear of failure. Depression alone is known to kill a lot of people so it is not anything we should take lightly. I believe with my passion of  inspiring people it would be good to create a blog like this to help someone from being haunted by fear of failure or fear of falling in life.

Honestly speaking it is hard to overcome  a constant obstruction in life but bear in mind that quitters never win and winners never lose. Just before I end this article how would you feel if you write a whole article ready for publication and all of a sudden you loose  all or half of it without any good reason?That would be painful right?. Yes,this is what happened to me when I got done with this very article.It was about 2000 words and I lost half of it, I tried to recover it by clicking on the undo button but to no avail. Now I can see you want to ask how I felt. To be honest I got annoyed and disappointed with a sharp pain  in my heart. But I realised that had already happened and just for the next minute I smiled and nodded my head in anticipation. I hate complaining because I believed someone somewhere has lost much more longer and rich article better than mine.It would be unwise to sit down grieving over this or put your hands in your lap.What I did next is to rewrite all the lost part of this article. With a different approach I decided to duplicate it in my mailbox till I finally publish it.I also compensated myself by writing more than the first one.This article really tested my ability of not being afraid of life or failure.

Lastly, should you hear that I am dead, there is no need of being sad because I have always been smiling to my grave.But don’t be selfish,just share this article to encourage someone today.Let somebody know that being afraid of falling in life is not an option anyone should accept.I welcome your comments,contributions and feedbacks.