Have you smiled today?Smile is one of the basic human expressions that has a lot of benefits without stress
This is the second time I am writing about “why it is good to smile” since I started blogging and this time around I would like to go into details for everyone to know how precious that little and simple thing “😃” is.Let me ask again; have you smiled today?.Scientists have said it takes 17 muscles to smile and 42 muscles to frown. Although these figures have been debatable but whatever the case is, it takes less muscles to put up a simple and beautiful smile compared to frown which takes much more. There are different types of smiles that ranges from mild(grin) to an intensive one(laughter). Here in this article I will discuss with you why it is good to smile.
The most beautiful smile come from people with dimples just like the one in the photograph above. If you have dimples too,thumps up for you.Kindly smile back as an appreciation for my little compliment 😃. Smile has the magical abilities to start conversation with friends and even with strangers. Seeing someone smile back to you becomes a platform for conversations that could become serious and end in intim😃cy. Some people simply got their boos through smile exchange.A smile😇 therefore gives you the go ahead to say 😀😊 “Hi”, followed by whatever you have in mind but please don’t be ridiculous to talk about unimportant things that would turn the smile into frown and ruin everything.
Girls are mostly known for their abilities to smile easily and for that kind of charming smiles they put on I second to that with my last cent.Naturally girls are often shy to start conversations especially when they admire a particular guy, secret admirer is what I’m talking about so if you are a smart guy you would understand that gesture of the girl puting on “smile”.When you see anything like that go ahead,talk to her.You can compliment or flatter her first and she will blow your mind with super intense smile 😀 .lol.I don’t think any woman would get annoyed by responding to her smile with conversation. They would love to hear your compliments,humours and chit chats.
Smile doesn’t cost a dime but it is one of the most beautiful things about humans,even animals too.The messages a smile sends to people is like a light bulb that glows in the dark.It is simply beautiful.People get attracted to it and it shows how friendly and humane you are.On the other hand , people who frown always are like light bulbs that has lost its filament,it doesn’t shine and when they smile it is like a light bulb shining under the Sun. You will never see the beauty of it because they have frowned all their lives. No matter how beautiful you are if you do not smile,your beauty becomes shrouded and people wouldn’t like to get close to you.Frowns drive people away,especially if you are a trader and you hardly welcomes your customers with smiles, it is likely that you will lose most of your costumers because a smile is like an invisible language that sends information to people about you.Who wouldn’t like to talk to people who always smile?
Another important reason why it is good to smile is,the benefits of being loved by almost everyone to the extend that your smiles alone can help you get employment when you go for any crucial interview. Keep on smiling and opportunities would come your way.
Refusing to smile can also get you into trouble somewhere in your life journey because it already doesn’t send a good message about you to people around you.People would be saying at your back “Ah this guy hardly smiles,he will be very wicked”.Your inability to smile had already sold you out as a bad person so should if there is an armed robbery,theft, hooliganism or any form of crime that surrounds you,you could be a suspect culprit maybe you are innocent too.That is one major result of refusing to smile. The reason is about the kind of information your facial expression (frown) sends to the public.If you are like that please start learning how to smile and enjoy all the benefit it offers.
Smile mostly goes along with greetings which together starts friendly conversations between strangers. In the event where someone forgets or refuses to greet, he or she can cover that up with a beautiful smile which shows how friendly they are, although this very person refused to greet.
Why do people smile?.Many people smile for various reasons. Someone can smile for simply being happy about something and that thing could be a good idea that came into his or her mind.Actually, there are reasons for every smile, even fake smiles have reasons too.
Others too smile for simply seeing something beautiful or attractive, and that thing could be a beautiful mind-blowing house, a beautiful girl, a handsome guy,a beautiful flower, a fascinating event and such likes. Here you could see smiles begin by something interesting or beautiful and so it always sends positive messages to people around. Someone could just wake up in the morning and smile, there is no way that smile would mean something unpleasant.
In fact there are many more good reasons why it is good to smile.And did you know smile kills pains?.When you are facing life challenges, try to smile very often and at least it would help you to suppress your sorrows. Smiles have the power to cover emotional pains and make it invisible for people to see,but if you don’t smile to your pains,your facial expression would be sad and your pains might be aggravated.Smiling to your pains is like crying in the rains,nobody will see that because you are sending out a positive message that would awe your enemies to wonder the kind of person you are.”You will find that life is still worthwhile if you smile” – Charlie Chaplin.I really like this man,he was always found smiling in his movies, with his masterpiece comedy you will smile and break into uncontrollable laughter and right there if you have any pains it would vanish.
It is advisable for everyone to learn about how to smile and I believe this article has made you smile enough. If you enjoyed its contents then don’t forget to share to put a 😀 on someone’s face now.I welcome all comments and contributions, including feedbacks. Smile 😃.
A Christian living prayerless life is like an empty barrel that makes noise anywhere at anytime.
Prayer is the greatest way of getting close to God and it is very necessary in every Christian’s life.Is there something you really need in life?.Don’t worry,just pray to God.Tell him exactly what you want,have faith and surely he will answer you.This article would help you to understand the reasons why you should not stop praying, no matter how long it will take do not stop praying.Even if God says “No”,trust him and in a short time you will know why God said “No”.By the way, remember that “No” is an answer too.
Many people who are Christians give up easily when they pray and their answer seems not to come,meanwhile Jesus said “Ask and it shall be given you; seek and ye shall find; knock and it shall be opened unto you” (Luke 11:19). And then again Jesus said “If ye ask anything in my name,I will do it” (John 14:14).So why are your prayers not answered?. Let us first consider an interesting story Jesus told in Luke 11.After Jesus taught his disciples how to pray(The Lord’s Prayer) he began by narrating a story about a man who had just gone to bed and his friend came knocking at the door in the middle of the night asking for three cakes to serve a guest from a journey.The man told his friend to go away because he had shut his door and his Children were sleeping. So he told his friend,it would be impossible for him to get up and get him what he need.Jesus then said, though he will not give it to his friend but if the friend keep on asking he will get up and give him as many as he want.In the verse 9, Jesus said “And I say to you make request; and they would be answered…. The whole illustration here is about prayers and anyone who do not give up to prayers will surely get his request answered. So do not stop praying. Persistence in prayer is the key to answering of your request.
Another important aspect of some of the reasons why your prayer has not been answered might be the fact the your faith is very low.When you doubt your own prayers,how would you get answer from God?.Anytime you pray to God about your problems have faith that you have received it already. Faith is the greatest backbone of any prayer offered to God. ” For this reason I say to you, whatever you make request for in prayer have faith that it has been given to you and you will have it”.(Mark 11:24).So Christians should note that prayers without faith is one major reason your requests are not answered. However there is one exception in the bible when the Roman soldiers imprisoned Peter,the Church made strong prayers to God to save Peter from being executed.When God made his Angel to release Peter , he went to the house of Mary were they had met to pray.Peter knocked on the door several times but the disciples doubted that it was him,at first they thought it was an angel instead.In this very event, although they prayed to God to release Peter from Prison but when he came home knowing at the door doubt filled their hearts except Rhoda who heard Peter’s voice and rejoiced. “And hearing the voice of Peter,with joy she went running without opening the door to say that Peter was outside”.(Mark 12:14).
Now let’s look at why prayers are not answered. Does God answer all prayers?.The answer here is simply “No”.Jesus said those who believe in him are those whose prayers would be answered.You do not believe in Jesus Christ then why would you expect him to answer your prayer.Upon coming to shed his precious blood on earth because of our sins and you still don’t believe in him,then don’t expect him to answer your prayers. The prayer of an unbeliever to God is a prayer of repentance. The unbeliever should repent of his sins,invite Jesus into his life by accepting him as his saviour.If we do not confess our sins in our hearts God will not answer our prayers either (Psalms 66:18).We should not hide iniquities in our hearts,else God will not answer our prayers.And also if we ask for the wrong things God will not answer.(James 4:3).Every Christian must know what is necessary and what is unnecessary in life,example is someone praying to God to enable him enjoy pleasures of life, it is unnessary.If you seriously want your request answered then walk close to God with good heart. When we follow all his directions about prayer then surely our prayers would be answered.
The last thing I would like to talk about is why Prayers Are Hindered. Every Christian must know that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against rulers of darkness, principalities,spiritual wickedness in high places. You can find this in Ephesians 6:12 and the verse 13 onwards tell us why and how we should put on the full amour of God and in this way you would be able to withstand all these demonic spirits that fight against us.They can prevent your prayers from being answered if your prayers are too weak or inconsistent. A clear example is what happened to Daniel in the old testament.When he prayed to God,his answer got delayed for 21 days by the high Spirit being the Prince of the Kingdom of Persia,it took Angel Michael’s help before Daniel received answer to his prayer(Daniel 10:13).The battle is the Lord’s so give all your problems to him in faith and he will answer all your requests.Pray always to break every barrier or evil spirit blocking your blessings in Jesus Name, Amen.Why does God answer prayers?. He answers our prayers so that his name become glorified(John 14:13). How relieving would it be seeing your prayer answered right in your eyes?.
Some tips for everyone who is making a request to be answered.Get yourself a note-book, list all your prayers and date requested, leave a column indicating when you need the answers and then leave another column to write the date your prayer become answered. Be dedicated to all your requests in prayers and surely God will manifest himself for you and everyone around you to see.After recieving answers to your prayer don’t forget to thank him.There is this acronym I really like P.U.S.H which means;
P – Push
U – Until
S – Something
H – Happen
Even,if the devil gets close to you ,whispers into your ears “it is impossible” keep on praying, challenge your self by knocking at the door day and night and it shall be opened unto you.Amen.
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Music has a lot of benefits in our lives so it worths for everyone to know and make it a hobby
Who doesn’t like music?.I guess almost everyone reading this article likes music. If you are a music nerd then stay cool and read this piece of information revealing why music is good you.
In the first place,there are many types of music and all these music are food to the brain.Whether jazz,hip-hop,reggae,country, R&B,Soul,Blues or whatever, so far as it sounds good into your ears it is music.Your music preference is what actually drives you crazy.You could ignore the world by puting on your headset with your favourite tunes.
For a very long time,I have heard that even snakes like music and they prefer getting close to music, that’s quite strange anyway. What about birds?. oh yes!,they can compose beautiful songs.Anyone living close to places where tress could be found are likely to hear the beautiful songs of birds.There is nothing beautiful than waking up by the beautiful songs of birds in the morning.
Now let’s find out some of the reasons why music is good for you.Music in general has a lot of health benefits starting from reduction of stress and anxiety,reduction of pains,improvement in immune functioning by boosting blood flow,increasing memories and so forth.
I would prefer to explain in details how music is capable of boosting memories first. Assuming you find your self listening to a particular music that you used to hear several years ago.The moment the music hits you,then almost every memories in your past resurfaces. It could be a romantic moment you had with your ex,an event that happened,something interesting that happened to you,your friends,family or school mates etc.The reminiscence could be so strong that you would miss those moments and prefer the music never ends.
Music can also help you learn and recall information you came across.When you learn with very soft music, it keeps the brain alert and entertain it to absorb everything you are reading with full concentration.
Music revitalize the immune system by boosting the blood flow in your body.Circulation of blood increases to help your immune system function well by fighting diseases effectively.
Music therapy is scientifically known to cut pain in cancer patients better than the regular treatments.
When you listen to music you can find out that it is capable of reducing stress in the sense that anytime you find yourself listening to music, the healing power of that music helps reduce the stress hormone cortisol in you body. If you haven’t experienced that yet,you can give it a try.After a hard day work, play your favourite music,relax and you will feel the healing power of music driving away your stress.
Music helps patients before and after surgery by reducing anxieties. It is also good for people suffering from insomnia.Some friends of mine would always put the music on when they are about to sleep and as the music plays they will simply doze off.In the afternoon many people prefer soft music like jazz,blues and soul at places like cafeterias, hotels,pubs, and honestly you can take a nap right there and wake up afresh within some few minutes.
Music is also known to enhance running performance.Runners who train by listening to soft or motivational music are known to do better because the music distract the mind from sending fatigue signal to your body,thereby reducing the tiredness to help you move extra miles ahead.So if you ever see an athlete training with his earpiece in his ears,that is his secret.You can also try to enjoy this amazing benefit of music.
Moreover, music has the potency of putting a grieving person into a positive mood.Anyone who is sad can listen to inspirational music to feel motivated. Music has words,and when those words are touchy, anyone who is sad for any kind of reason would feel some sense of happiness by taking the person’s attention off the sorrows. In funeral ceremonies for example, there are a number life motivational music played to console the bereaved family and sympathizers.
Finally, the above reasons are very practical and you can try almost all of them and know why music is good for you.Sometimes we could find ourselves listening to music we do not understand.This shouldn’t be a problem so far as the music has pleasant beats to the ears and the mind it is music.I believe understanding of music is not really important because we don’t even understand the songs of birds,yet we say they sing beautiful songs.On the other hand if the music has profanities then it becomes questionable. I wouldn’t recommend such music to anyone, although that particular music would be someone’s favourite. Yes!, that is taste of preference, everyone has a choice.By the way you can tell me your favourite type of music in the comment box.Don’t forget to share this message.
Self Motivation skills are very important in everyone’s life because through that you can move mountains that you never thought you could.
So far as you are an inhabitant on this planet,you will face challenges and some would be beyond your strength, but whatever the case is you have to learn about “Self Motivation skills” to get over your challenges so if nobody shows up to cheer you up,you can do that your self.If you stay there waiting for someone to come and cheer you up before you move ahead in life ,you might be waiting all the rest of your natural life on earth.But luckily if you find someone like me to cheer you up then be grateful and know that until the bones are fully rotten you will never succumbed to your life challenges.Most at times when we hear of Self Motivation, our minds are quickly set on bodybuilding.But that is not the only thing that needs individualistic motivation.There are many more and I will share with you in this article.As for bodybuilder your motto is already “No Pain No Gain” so would you want me to endure the pain for you to gain?.Hell no!,go get it.And don’t forget to eat healthy food and be committed to your workout. For more skills,see your gym instructor and surely he would be able to help you learn about how to motivate yourself for greater output.
One simple Self Motivation skills you can adopt is to have a positive mindset over negativity always, and that will shut down any degrading obstacle in your life.The mind is the greatest weapon that controls your body,every signal to the body comes from the brain with the help of the Central Nervous System so if you have positive mindset you will always rise above your problems and stay afloat. So far as the brain envisions the fact that you can do it then truly you can.Yes!, you can. “The mind is the limit.As long as the mind can envision the fact that you can do something,you can do it as long as you really believe hundred percent” – Arnold Scharzenneger.This very quote is one of my favourite motivational quotes in the world.When I was young,the quote motivated me to buy my first mobile phone. A phone that I could never have been able to buy. I was in dire need of phone but since I was young and wasn’t working I had to save the little monies given to me by my parent.I was just a student and I depended on my Mum’s food and pocket monies. I made a table on a sheet of paper ,and I decided to save an amount of money each day.Anytime I save,I write down the date and the amount on that sheet.After this effort I was able to buy my first phone within four months. I bought my first phone at the cost of almost $50.Just take a look at the quote again and feel the inspiring message it sends to the brain.Yes,you can!.You might see financial problems,health problems,emotional problems, marriage problems,academic problems,work problems etc. in your life but all these are there to test your strength. When you shut down your mind, all these problems begin to worsen.Self Motivation skills like positive mindset is the first approach everyone must take but make sure you have realistic target which should by all means be feasible.In this case don’t be too extreme for fantasies to take over your life.Please be real and if you fail once,twice or more you shouldn’t give up.I like the saying “Nothing Is Impossible” but I rather love this one “With God Nothing Is Impossible”. Sometimes it would take super-natural intervention to see yourself sailing through your problems so add prayers to spice up your Self Motivation skills, then you will see improvement in every aspect of your life.It might seem long but you just make sure you are positive always and you will reach your goals.
The second Self Motivation Skills I would like to draw your attention on is about the power of the tongue. The tongue could bless and curse at the same time so watch what you say to your self;
“Oh as for this exams I will fail”,”I can’t make it in life”, “I will be the most terrible person…”, “I wouldn’t be accepted”……When proclamations like this comes from your mouth it means you have already succumbed to failure, you have cursed yourself to fail.The tongue holds power in our daily lives.There is an African proverb that says “Man dies but his tongue never get rotten”.How do you even understand this proverb?. Proverbially, the tongue is the only part of humans that never dies and this simply means your words would still be in people’s memories even when you die.If what you said was positive or negative it would still be remembered when you are gone.A clear example is about musicians,they produce songs that would last for centuries meanwhile they wouldn’t normally live up to a century. So if you are talking let every word coming out of your mouth be positive to kill every evil that want your failure. Strike your enemies into shame by using that power of the tongue in a positive way. There are demons and evil forces moving around us so when you live on this earth by making use of Self Motivation skills you drive them away but if you utter anything negative about your own self,these evil spirits can pick it up and use it against you.Example is someone who is about to travel and says, “what if I get accident?”.That “what if I get accident?” is a conditional clause and the devil can take the negative part of it and make it possible.Instead of doubting yourself and saying evil against your own self, say positive things and it shall come true.Don’t give the devil and your enemies any chance to use your own words against you.Find Self Motivation skills like this to live a successful life.
Another skills I would like to share with you is to associated yourself with positive minded people like me.I always let people know that I am an optimist and nothing bogs me down. Friends could have a lot of influence on your life.If you move with sissies and pessimists,you become one of them.These friends wouldn’t say anything positive to you but rather scare you with the most possible thing,the most simplest thing would be exaggerated to scare the hell out of you. Maybe you want to travel abroad to study and your friends come to you saying “Hey, that place you are going is full of bullies, don’t go”.Is this advice that a good friend should give a fellow?. In a situation like this if you don’t make use of Self Motivation skills your pessimist friends would ruin your future. Why would you opt out to study abroad because of “bullies”?.Just forget about them,go forward and they wouldn’t harm you.Yes!,I said they wouldn’t. Who knows,maybe they will beat almost everyone but you alone,they wouldn’t harm you because we have differences and people normally react to situations when they meet different people. Maybe you will look intimidating or awesome to them so these so-called bullies wouldn’t dare touch you.How they treated someone wouldn’t be the same way you would be treated. To say more about this kind of Self Motivation skills you have to acknowledge that you are responsible for your choices but not your pessimist friends.Honestly,I hate pessimism.
Moreover,everyone must know about his/her strengths and weaknesses so that no one lies to you that you are somebody you are not.This kind of skills is about self-definition. Assuming someone comes in and say “you are too ugly”.Omg!, I have never heard derogatory words that sounds crazy than this before. And anytime I hear it I become annoyed. How on earth could someone looks directly into a fellow’s eyes and say “you are damn ugly?”.Well,here the person has defined whom you are in a heartbreaking way but I want us to face the truth here,let’s be real.Assuming indeed you are not beautiful, but ask yourself “Am I the ugliest person in this world?”.Off course not.You are beautiful than someone and so you don’t have to buy that. And in life no matter how beautiful,ugly,brilliant, handsome, unique you are, still people will find negative things to say about you.You simply don’t have to pay attention to them.Define your self and move ahead in life.No one is perfect.When you find your weaknesses try to work on it positively and you will find yourself happy.Never expect your self to please everyone, no matter how good you are,no matter how generous you are,no matter how beautiful you can sing,no matter how efficient you are at work etc. You can’t still please everyone,you only have to make sure Self Motivation skills is guiding you which will surely drive you safely to your dream land.
Another important skills to motivate you in your daily lives is to avoid fear of falling in life.When you become afraid in life,you would hardly be successful because fear steals your lofty aims and opportunities.Fear is illusion so you don’t have to let it intimidate you.The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you are seeking for so be a man enough to psych yourself up for any task ahead of you.You can make it.
I believe you have enjoyed reading this article, don’t forget to click share to help motivate someone too.Be positive always and never forget to smile to your challenges.
Marriage divorce is a guest that finds itself in marriages uninvited. Read this article to find out the major causes of marriage breakdowns.
God first instituted marriage in the garden of Eden and since then marriage has been a natural institution that follows certain ways and governed by simple rules.Marriage is the union between a man and a woman who have gone through all the laid down rules and are legally, religiously and culturally regarded as husband and wife.However marriage rites differs from countries to countries,cultures to cultures and other differential beliefs.Divorce on the other hand could be defined as the official end or termination of marriage with both couples being aware through the court or the local assembly.
In our world today,there are rampant divorce cases and people are asking why divorce?. Marriage is one of the happiest things in life and almost everyone aspires to reach such status by being Mr. or Mrs.Marriage begins from relationship or courtship before it finally and officially becomes “marriage”.The journey between courtship and marriage is to study each other to know the likes and dislikes,strengths and weakness,do’s and don’ts of each couple and in the long run every couple prepares himself or herself with much knowledge about each other, but the question here is why marriage divorce?.
Nobody dreams of having his or her marriage divorced after vowing to live together by saying “till death do us apart”.In one of my recent articles I talked about why it is not good to never make a promise and it actually coincide with divorce cases we see around today. In divorce, the happiest thing (marriage) becomes the most “painful thing” in the couple’s life.In most cases one partner could call for divorce if he/she thinks there is something wrong and the accusation could range from infidelity,bareness/infertility,strange behaviours, peer pressure,financial constraint,assaults/physical abuse,unnecessary family interference and so forth.
Now let’s delve into some of the reasons that answers the question “why marriage divorce?”.The first one could be infidelity.Here the man or the woman could be the culprit and it is the only legitimate reason for divorcing a partner, lest the one cheated on decides to opt out for divorce.For me to distinguish between which partners are the most unfaithful people in marriages I can’t, but I do know each of the couple is able and capable of cheating at any moment.It is the most heart-breaking part of marriage that mostly results in divorce. I can’t imagine how painful it would be to see your love one having sex with someone else on your matrimonial bed.Oh uh,that’s too crazy!.
The second cause of divorce I would like to talk about is bareness and infertility.Almost everyone who enters marriage has plans for raising kids to make a complete family,without kids in marriage the family seems incomplete. Children are precious and beautiful gifts from God so in cases where the woman finds it difficult taking seed, it becomes a crucial moment and makes both couples stranded and impatient. Women have early child-bearing limitations than men because of menopause so any woman who fails to give birth within the childbearing age becomes frustrated all the time.The man can decide to end the marriage officially or find a different woman just to give him children.Men are hardly cut down by age in terms of child-bearing. A sixty year old man could easily give birth unlike women, lest it takes some super natural intervention(miracle). Some men too find themselves being infertile,it could become chronic which would force his desperate wife find a different man who is potent enough to help her have her own children.
In furtherance,unusual behaviours could be a signal of marriage divorce. There is reason for everything that happens in our lives but to find the exact reason of certain things becomes an undefined mystery beyond our capabilities unless the person in question reveals the motive behind his/her unusual behaviour, but if you are a smart guy you could figure things out yourself.Maybe your partner has found a different lover who is super beautiful or handsome than you,richer, sexier,caring and loving than you so to piss you off he/she would portray that annoying behaviours and the moment you give up by filing a divorce, oh hallelujah!, you have fulfilled his/her wish. The wish that she/he couldn’t tell you right on your face.Then when divorce proceeds one finds it very much comfortable than the other who was faithful. You can read more about human behaviours in my article entitled “Here is why we are characterized by different behaviours”.
Peer pressure is another disturbing reason for divorce but it seems people haven’t taken note of that properly. A marriage man or woman who normally finds himself or herself in bad companies of friends faces the risks of marriage breakdown. What kind of good marriage advice or influence could bad friends give you.They can easily pollute your mind, maybe they envy your marriage, they might smile with you,share everything together with you but inwardly they are like wolves ready to attack and destroy.Taking marriage advice from bad friends is like learning how to Cook from the baddest cook in the kitchen. Always your marriage would be salty instead of tasting like honey. Nobody likes salty food so there, a change of food would be good and that is divorce.
Financial constraint always waters marriage divorce in the sense that many women can’t simply live without money.I mean,they always want to see money yielding big like yam or pawpaw.Situations of financial challenges could set in marriages any moment and it takes understanding and coöperation from both couples to solve it amicably. Marriage journey wouldn’t always taste sweet.There is an African proverb that says “if money were to grow on trees,women would marry monkeys”.I actually don’t blame the women alone,but some men too are lazy,some are also stingy.That is funny anyway.When financial crisis becomes a problem for long, any of the couple could opt out for marriage.The person could even travel far away to find a financial breakthrough without the knowledge of the other partner.
Last but not the least, physical abuse and to some level,verbal abuse like insults and all forms of derogatory words that sends chills into the bones. Men who normally excercise absolute control in marriages are likely to abuse their wives physically when they feel there is something wrong, sometimes when there is nothing wrong they could still beat their wives making the women lose the sweet taste of marriage.Honestly,some husbands are monsters and their children and wives fear them, even to a larger extend their communities. They become known as “Mr.Brutal” instead of “Mr.Right”.But this doesn’t end here,some women too beat their husbands. Oh yes!,though that rarely happens but it weakens the strength and happiness of marriages which could break down at any point.
The last cause of marriage divorce in this article is unnecessary family inteferance.Some in-laws are a menace to their children’s marriage by sniffing and involving themselves in almost every decision-making in the marriage. Some of them are witches and wizards who could fight against the marriage spiritually and physically. In Africa,evil in-laws could make bareness set in marriages or cause impotency in men.When marriage couples take every little problem that brings misunderstanding to their in-laws without solving it amicably, it opens the gateway for them to have unnecessary interferences in the marriage which could result in divorce.
Before I talk about some basic solutions to the above named causes of marriage divorce, let’s know some of the effects on the people and the society as well.So what are the effects of marriage divorce?.In the first place I don’t think any religious leader who blesses any kind of marriage would be happy to see its break down.The grievances will actually start from him because he blessed the marriage using the holy Bible, quoting “let no man separate what God has joined together”.
The next effect would be on the couples in question and here one has to bear greater emotional pains than the other. Yes!, the one who was unfaithful wouldn’t be much grieved than the faithful couple. And when the emotional pains becomes intense the person could go mad outright. I believe marriage divorce is the second most painful thing on earth aside death.I haven’t tasted some yet and I pray I shouldnt.The psychiatric hospitals around us today are full of broken-hearted people.May God have mercy on them.However, it seems recovery rate from mental disorder through marriage divorce is highly assured.
The next effect would be on children, if there is any.The moment marriage break-down surges, it affects the children,parents and communities directly in these ways:
1. Parental control becomes very weak and poor which can force the children join bad friends and involve themselves in social vices such us armed robbery, prostitution,pickpocketing and other unhealthy practices like alcoholism, smoking and sorcery.
2. The children could be a big burden on the society and the government as well.The society would have to face the dangerous behaviours like disobedience, burglary, and smoking.In cases where they find themselves in prostitution they can spread STD like HIV/AIDS like wild-fire.Shaping the outrageous behaviours of such children become a huge burden on the community.
The next effect of marriage divorce in this article is dishonor to parents.This is one of the immediate effects, and this happens to send bad messages to parents of both couple especially that of the woman.In one way or the other the woman’s mother would feel disgraced in the event where her daughter was found seeking extra marital sex elsewhere and I believe the same thing applies to that of the man but not so serious because men are able to marry more than one, especially in the Islāmic religion and some Christians too, although the bible doesn’t support that.
Quickly, let’s find out some of the solutions to the marriage divorce cases raised in this article. What are the solutions to marriage divorce?.The most effective solution in the long run is reunion. Here the couple in question hold the key to their future reunion if they still like each other. Normally after several years of divorce and staying single for long,the tendency of missing something special about your ex-wife or ex-husband is very high and in this case you will find yourself reminiscing how certain things made you feel happy, forgetting about the negative side that resulted in the divorce. The old wood could be set ablaze again.Moreover,maybe there are children who are full of life and so need the companionship of both couple to raise them up properly.The children could be the medium of marriage divorce reunion.
The next possible solution about infidelity, bareness,financial constraints,strange behaviours, assaults/physical abuse and unnecessary family interference, I will recommend you see a marriage counsellor or any credible man of God.
For peer pressure, the best thing to do is disassociate yourself from them and if you find it difficult taking that step then it would be necessary to keep your marital problems or issues from them.It is always advisable not to trust human and so every married couple should be very careful when communicating with friends and all those they believe are good as well.
In conclusion marriage has been the oldest human institution in our world and it is very complex that a lot of preparations are needed before going in for it,if you make the wrong choice of a marriage partner you will find yourself in hell,if you make the right choice,you will certainly find yourself in heaven but honey wouldn’t flow into your mouth everyday. Marriage divorce is happening everywhere haphazardly starting from celebrities who are the role models of millions of people. Oh Yes!,many celebrities are falling apart in their marriages and here I don’t want to mention names because it would sound like I’m gossiping, lol.I pray that everyone reading this article finds peace and happiness in his/her marriage and those looking for marriage or getting ready for marriage feel the Lord in every aspect of their marriage journey.Mutual agreement between a wife and a husband is one of the greatest secrets of a happy marriage. “Can two walk together except they be agreed?”(Amos 3:3).
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