If happiness is a choice then anyone at all could choose it. There are no merits attached to happiness so grab it and smile.
Understanding Why We Believe Happiness Is A choice
Happiness is a choice whether you like it or not. The truth is always like a bitter pill. You need to take it to feel good. Do you even feel happy at this very moment of your life?. YES/NO ?.
WHY?. Is it because you;
♦. Chose a beautiful wife/handsome man?
♦. Chose a good job?
♦. Or because you chose to be rich?
It is so hard for many people to believe or understand that happiness is a choice. It, therefore, sparks an unending argument between friends, families, colleagues etc.
Surely, everyone wants to be happy in life but not everyone feels happy. If happiness is a choice, why not choose it now and forget about your miseries?.
Before I go any further, I would like you to understand that the mind is the greatest weapon of happiness.
What Is The Happiest Thing In Life To Choose?
Well, it all depends on the person in question. We have different taste of preferences. I bet you, someone can take bile and feel happy. Someone else might take honey and would not be happy.
We don’t always feel the same way toward things around us. In this case, you have to figure out what really makes you happy. Make that choice and live a happy life.
However, I don’t condone unethical means of deriving happiness. Make sure the source of your happiness is legit.
Possible Things People Think Bring Happiness Into Their Lives
Oh well, if happiness is a choice then people often go in for sex, have fun, wine and dine believing they are in the bosom of happiness.
But is that really true?. No!, Having temporary enjoyment is not happiness. And don’t mistake pleasures as happiness. Pleasures happen for a moment and the wind blows it away. In this case, you have to be vigilant in choosing what really makes you happy.
Money and wealth are not substances that bring true happiness so don’t chase money and wealth thinking is the key to happiness. If it were so, then the poor wouldn’t ever feel happy.
Even though happiness is a choice but people make the wrong choices thinking they have chosen happiness. This invariably brings us to the definition of happiness.
What is happiness?.
Sonja Lyubomirsky who is a psychology researcher gave a perfect definition of happiness as;
“the experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile.”
Can We Make Happiness A Choice, How?
Yes, of course, we can make happiness a choice even if you are facing difficult situations. If you fail to choose happiness, sadness and depression will choose you. And this is very bad.
Many of us have been entrapped in the darkness of sadness. You did not choose that sadness but you can make happiness a choice. Even in the loss of a loved one(death), you can still gaze at the brighter side of life and feel happy. Choose it. Death teaches us good lessons in life and everyone must know about it.
“I have many problems in my life. But my lips don’t know that – they always smile.” – Charlie Chaplin
The law of substitution would work perfectly here. This law States that you can substitute a negative thought for a positive one. Just like I said, the mind is the greatest weapon. Control it to your advantage and you will always feel secure and happy.
Bear in mind that you have a high sense of control in the most important areas of your life. And since happiness is a choice, you must always choose it, a good choice of course.
If your marriage is breaking, fix it or leave to gain your happiness. Havard Researches believe one of the most important things that bring happiness and long life is healthy relationships.
And as a matter of fact, you have to choose to be in healthy relationships. It could be your friends, spouse, co-workers, classmates etc.
The Choice Is Yours
⇒ Your Job/Career
If you think your job is a kind of crap and so steal your happiness why not stop or find a new one?. You applied for the job you are doing if you don’t like it anymore choose to quit and break free from all the nonsense. Before that, find yourself a suitable one.
⇒ Friends In Question
And then again, If you dislike your friends for any good reason why not burn bridges with them. Do exactly what will bring a sense of relief and contentment to you.
⇒ Your Environment
If you think your environment is a kind of hell, why not relocate. Leave your discomfort zone to a comfort zone. Stay at a place where you can enjoy personal freedom, enjoy the fresh air, sunshine and the panoramic scenes around you.
⇒ Every Good Decision
If there is anything you want to do to take a deep breath of rejuvenation why not do it?. Make the right choice. Yes!, happiness is a choice and there are so many choices to make to feel happy.
“Happiness is a choice. You can choose to be happy. There’s going to be stress in life, but it’s your choice, whether you let it affect you or not.“
– Valerie Bertinelli
By the way, if you think; to make a quick turn to feel happy seems too harsh; then you have to set a goal. A goal that will liberate you from sadness and any form of ill-feelings.
Work hard toward your goal and gradually, you will achieve that thing which will bring happiness into your life.
Happiness is a state of mind and so if you can make your mind understand that happiness is a choice you, will always make that choice over any kind of problem, then you will always feel happy and satisfied in life, even if you have no money.