Should A Wife Serve Her Husband In Marriage?.Is there any difference between a wife and a servant?.If it is so,then Christians must be vigilant enough to find out the truth behind.
Very often Christians hear from their pastors, prophets,church leaders etc. that a wife should serve her husband,wives should be slaves to their husbands.And husband’s must be masters of their wives.Now, the question is;Does this teaching come from the bible?.
Misconstruing the bible’s viewpoint in the relationship between a man(husband) and a woman(wife) leads to suppression and all forms of abuse. This very teachings insights some husbands to maltreat their wives because their Pastor says husband’s are master in marriages and wives are slaves/servants.Is marriage about “SLAVES and MASTERS”?
Why Should A Wife Serve Her Husband?,The Bible’s Viewpoint For Christians
By definition who is a servant?:A person who performs duties for others, especially a person employed in a house on domestic duties or as a personal attendant.
By definition who is a helper?:A person who helps someone else.
Christians must bear in mind that the bible is the final word to us but not what the Pastor or Prophet says. In this case,let me take you through the bible and know how God want
husbands to treat their wives.
God used six days for his creation, rested on the seventh day.God created animals before man and seeing the loneliness of man he made a helper (woman) for him.Some translations use “companion” not “slave/servant” anyway.
Genesis 2:7 says “The LORD God formed the man from the soil of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.”
Vs 18 ‘The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a companion for him who corresponds to him.”
One important thing I want every Christian to notice is that,God sent all the animals to Adam to name them but none of the animals could be a helper(companion) to him.If so then what could they be?. Adam gave names to all the birds that fly in the air. He gave names to all the wild animals. But none of these animals was a helper who was suitable for Adam.God gave Adam the audacity to “CONTROL” them.(Genesis 1:28).So Animals became slaves to man.Man therefore became a master for the animals.
After God realising there was no potential helper,he finally gave Adam a suitable helper.Genesis 9:18 states;
‘After that, the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that man is alone. I will make a helper for him. His helper shall be suitable for him.’
A ‘helper’ simply means a person who will work together with another person. This does not mean a servant or a slave as some Preachers, Pastors etc. have been saying, making some women suffer abuse from their husbands.
When man works with animals, they are his servants. So they are not the helpers that man needs.
Genesis 2:13; “Then the man said, “This one at LAST is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
God was very careful that Adam should have a good partner to be his wife.If a woman (wife) is part of the body of man(husband) then why would man make part of his body a slave or a servant?. It doesn’t sound well,right?. Yes, so women(wives) are supposed not to be slaves to their husbands.Genesis 2:24 tells us Marriage is God’s plan for a man and a woman. Marriage should therefore last for life. A man and his wife become a new family.They must live together and work together, under God’s rules.
Advice From The New Testament
The new testament enshrines on the kind of relationship between a wife and a husband.It is still not a “master and a slave“.Here, the Bible emphasized on “mutual respect”.
“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife seethat she reverence her husband.”(Ephesians 5:32).
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;.”(1 Peter 1:3).
The word slave or servant is inappropriate for Christian wives in marriages.By the way,the awful truth is that,most wives these days don’t respect their husbands and this is where the problem of “master and slave” sets in.
If you wouldn’t respect your husband then you are disobeying God’s word. However,respect is reciprocal.Mutual respect for each other will help ease the rampant marital problems that may lead to divorce.
It is time Christians open their bibles and read exactly what God want from us.He created us in his own image and so he has perfect plan for us through his son Christ Jesus. Did you find this article helpful?. If ‘Yes’ then don’t forget to share with friends, families, and loved ones.Should a wife serve her husband?.No, she should be a helper not a servant.Stay blessed.
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