Advice:How Your Friend's Character Defines You

Do you know that your friend’s character could be used to judge you?.This is because they
share same bond of behavioral patterns with you which is undeniable.

how your friends define your character
How your friends define your character is simply amazing

Friends are people who form part of our inner circle right from infancy.At least we all have friends,we learn a lot from them and share a lot with them as well.This article will address the particular reasons why we are sometimes defined by the kind of friends we associate ourselves with,hence the saying;”show me your friend and I will show you your character”.The kind of friendship this kind of saying could be seen operating fully is “intimate friends”.

When you associate yourself with ruffian friends, automatically you are classified as ruffian, even if you are not.How sad this sounds.When your friends are sober or Godly, you are also considered as a cool person.

Today, life in friendship has changed drastically since human behavior or character is unpredictable.Those who look like saints are more treacherous than the stubborn looking friends.Our friends have a lot of influences on us.When you introduce your friend or friends to your parent or any class of people,quickly the judgment that would be howled on you will be based on your friends character, just like the saying,”birds of the same feathers flock together”.

You can never be innocent when your class of friends causes chaos or creates any kind of troubles like vandalizing,stealing,killing, or show any form of lawlessness.You will have yourself wanted even if you are not part of that particular incidence.I mean you can’t be innocent.I believe you will agree with me that situations like this has made a lot of people find themselves behind bars.All because of associating themselves with bad friends.If you know you have friends who are stubborn or show antagonistic behaviors in life,then you must be on guard because one day,they might cause you a lot of pains.What hurts more than being accountable for someone’s mistakes or negligence.

Our communities study our characters with eagle eyes so whatever you do they know it,they will surely know your lifestyle and the kind of friends you associate yourself with.Their testimony about you will be accepted by everyone so should if the police decide to make enquiries about your life for a supposed crime committed by your friends.When people in your community testifies that you are disrespectful,or stubborn then automatically it coincide with that of your friends who would be breaking the laws always.People will always judge you by the character of the kind of friends you move with.

In view of this,it is advisable to stay in touch with good friends who will give you good reputation.This kind of good reputation I am talking about could open great opportunities like jobs,promotions and first choice in any kind of competition you find yourself within.

“Show me your friend and I will show you your character” has a very good message for us all.Well,because of that must we be selective in the kind of friends we associate with?.Yes off course,only if you want to have a good reputation in your community,school,work place,church and every where you find yourself.I don’t necessarily need to be told that you are a ruffian, when I see you always moving with outcast.If your friends are prostitutes  and you always move with them, what doesn’t make you a prostitute as well?.Remember the saying “birds of the same feathers flock together” and don’t misinterpret it.

To stay away from troubles avoid troublesome friends,sometimes it could happen that you have a friend that you really like but he is very notorious,you can’t unfriend him simply because he stays with you in the same community or you go to school together or work at the same place.It is indeed a very hard situation but for your own safety, advice him to refrain from his bad character if nothing changes then don’t get too attached to him.Let him know that he doesn’t fall into the class of your friendship.Stay safe always.


Worry Not; God Loves You More Than Anyone

God’s love is simply beyond understanding, it takes a genuine person to appreciate the unfailing love of God.He want everyone to be happy only if you have faith in him and love him back.

God loves you
Never Get Worried For God Loves You Unconditionally

Do you think nobody loves you?,do you feel dejected in life?. Worry no more because there is someone who loves you more than you even love yourself.Can you believe that?. Yes,he loves you.His unfailing love will not leave you desperate.In this post, I will discuss with you how the Bible has made all Christians and anyone who believes in God to acknowledge the love of God.

Firstly, the bible says; “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life”(John 3:16).

God loves you and everyone, that is why he sent his only begotten son,Jesus to come and die for you.His death has wiped away your tears and sins.Just believe in him and surely you will have everlasting life.His love is to give you life and happiness. Though you might feel lonely or dejected but God’s unfailing love will always be on you.He is ever ready to forgive you your sins if you confess.

For any love to be perfect, it has to be reciprocal. “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love”(1 John 4:18).This is one of the reasons why I keep on saying, fear is not real,it is illusional so know why you should not fear anything in life for God has given you all you need to have faith in him, be happy and gain salvation. God loves you unconditionally and so you must also love him with all your heart and every good thing you need from God will be given to you.
Jesus said:
“For the Father himself loveth you, because ye have loved me, and have believed that I came out from God”(John 16:26).

Nothing can separate us from the love of God.He cares for you and has plans to make you prosperous. Let your faith increase in God; faith increases by reading the bible.Love him back and all things shall be well with you.Say a prayer every little moment you get.It could be in the morning, afternoon, night, down etc.The more you pray and read your bible,the more your faith increases to see the love of God in your life.He has been doing a lot for us;I mean things we can see and things we cannot see with our naked eyes.

“Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord”.(Romans 8:39).

Remember that,as a Christian you have to walk by faith, not by sight. Understand the amazing love he has for you.He will always love you,he is ever ready to provide you your needs. God can give you every good thing you need out of his unfailing love,but he has said;seek for his kingdom first and all what you need shall be given unto you.Today,I want you to know that as a human being,God loves you more than all his creation.Because he created you in his own image.

“But if God gives such clothing to the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is put into the oven, will he not much more give you clothing, O you of little faith?”(Matthew 6:29).

Faith speaks louder than words, faith in God can move mountains.God’s love is unmeasurable, get close to him always and you will feel his love, he will provide you with all your needs and protect you with his right hand just like he protected Israel from bondage to the promised land.Why would God not help you succeed in life if you get close to him?.Have faith and don’t worry about what tomorrow brings.Let tomorrow worry about itself.

God’s love for us will never end,though we were sinners but he sent his only begotten son to come and die for us so that we don’t end up in destruction. He loves us, he is concerned about our happiness, what we will eat,wear and all our needs. We must first show him that we appreciate his love for us and all things shall be given to us.When we die too,he has prepared a special place for us.So know that God loves you beyond measure. Even if everyone rejects you,God will never reject you,just like in the tribulation of Job,God never rejected him when all his friends,and loved ones rejected him.God loves you;Jesus loves you.

6 Ways To Deal With  Depression

Depression is a sickness that makes  people feel worthless or disorganized.Don’t let it consume you.

Dealing  With Depression
Dealing With Depression

Many people living today suffer from depression without knowing it.Kids,teens and adults all go through depressions for various types of reasons. Depression is a minor mental disease that overwhelms people preventing them to put themselves together to live a normal or satisfactory life.There is something wrong, but the one depressed might find it difficult to figure out what is exactly wrong.He will feel disorganized the whole day or for a couple of days.Well,you can sit down and analyse your life from all the previous days that you started feeling consumed by your wrong feelings.This article will help  anyone going through depression to find a better way to break free.

1. Enough Exercise:
Do quite a number of exercise to boost your cardio and brain function. The exercise might be in a form of little stretches, walking or jogging. This will make your mind and body active to ward away all the negative feelings of depression in your life.Right after your exercise shower down to refresh your body,wake up to a new feeling of relief.

2.Listen To Music:
You feel depressed but don’t know why?.Put on your favourite music  on to calm down your nerves. Music is a medicine that cures depression,that is why sometimes doctors recommend for music before  anaesthetic operations.It is a kind of food to the brain that sends positive vibes or signals to you by  making you feel normal,happy and focused in life activities.

3.Watch Your Dietary:
Eat healthy food to help you look strong. Don’t let your depression overwhelm you to loss appetite. Eat and eat well,avoid junk foods and surely your depression will leave you to enjoy your beautiful life.

 4. Face Your Fears:
 In my early post I talked about why you shouldn’t be afraid to fall in life.Fear does not exist, it is illusional.In this case you have to  feed your brain with positive thoughts.When you wake up each morning and think positively,there wouldn’t be any depression to take you down. The mind is the limit, whatever it says is final.Inspire yourself and your life will be free from depression.

 5. Socialise
Don’t isolate your self from people, integrate with those around you.Get involve in healthy conversations,share ideas,fun,jokes and laugh a lot to get over your depression. Don’t stay indoors for long,get close to your friends. I mean, friends who can offer you good advice or inspiration to help you move ahead in life. 

 6. Seek Medical Attention:
 When you try the above remedies and your depression hasn’t  left you alone to enjoy a normal life.See your doctor for in-dept assessment. He will help you with medical treatment to make you happy.

Depression is an enemy to many people, it is dangerous if you leave it to escalate.It could make people feel worthless to commit suicide, so whenever depression sets in your life fight it as soon as possible before it becomes too late.Share this article to help anyone fighting depression and surely it will do him or her a lot of good.

Dreams Come True Part 2 – The Spiritual Aspect

Dreams are part and parcels of all people and it has a lot of impacts on us.It could mean success or failure, or something unimaginable.

Dreams come true
Dreams Come True So Never Sleep On Any Dream You Have

Last two days I talked about “Dreams Come True Part 1” which was about setting goals for the future and working tirelessly to achieve it.Life without dreams or goals is useless.I strongly believe you have dreams as you read this posts.Now,here I will discuss with you about the second version of dreams which is more complex to understand because it relates to the spiritual world.I will take references from the bible to let you understand that ,dreams come true.There are three great men in the Bible who proved that dreams come true. Actually, there are other biblical instances but here I will focus on three of them.

First and foremost, let us learn from Solomon, how he got wisdom through dream.Solomon was a King in Israel, he feared God and worshiped him wholeheartedly. God appeared to him one night and asked him to make request for anything he needs.Solomon did not ask for riches nor anything except wisdom.

” Now give me wisdom and discernment so I can effectively lead this nation. Otherwise no one is able to make judicial decisions for this great nation of yours.”

“God said to Solomon, “Because you desire this, and did not ask for riches, wealth, and honor, or for vengeance on your enemies, and because you did not ask for long life, but requested wisdom and discernment so you can make judicial decisions for my people over whom I have made you king,

you are granted wisdom and discernment. Furthermore I am giving you riches, wealth, and honor surpassing that of any king before or after you.”(2 Chronicle 1:11-12).

God gave him enough wisdom in addition to wealth. He therefore became the wisest and the richest man ever to live on earth.Talking about wisdom, the bible instructs us to go to the ants to learn wisdom . He actually directed this message to all lazy people.In my older posts, I also talked about “how to obtain wisdom from God” .Trust him and he will give you wisdom if you ask.

The second,person I want us to consider his exemplary life as he also had his dreams fulfilled in the Bible is Joseph.In fact Joseph had a couple of dreams and all came to pass.After reading this post,you will know that dreams come true so we shouldn’t joke with it.Joseph became a dream interpreter as well. Interpreting dreams is a heavenly discerned gift. He dreamed to know that he will be the greatest among his 11 brothers. This made his brothers hate him so they sold him out. The dream became true and his brothers fell into the pit of their conspiracies.

” Joseph had a dream, and when he told his brothers about it, they hated him even more”.

“He said to them, “Listen to this dream I had:

“There we were, binding sheaves of grain in the middle of the field. Suddenly my sheaf rose up and stood upright and your sheaves surrounded my sheaf and bowed down to it!”

Then his brothers asked him, “Do you really think you will rule over us or have dominion over us?” They hated him even more because of his dream and because of what he said”.(Genesis 37:5-8).

His dream continued in the verses 9 to  10:

“Then he had another dream, and told it to his brothers. “Look,” he said. “I had another dream. The sun, the moon, and eleven stars were bowing down to me.”

When he told his father and his brothers, his father rebuked him, saying, “What is this dream that you had? Will I, your mother, and your brothers really come and bow down to you?”.

Nothing they did stopped Joseph’s dream to materialise. Whiles he was in prison he interpreted the dreams of the King’s cupbearer and the baker  and all these dreams came true.(Genesis 40:1-23).

The third person I want us to learn a lesson about dreams from is Daniel. He was a dream interpreter just like Joseph. He too was a captive in the days of Nebucadnazzer in ancient Babylon. The King had a mesmerizing dream which Daniel interpreted as the downfall of his kingdom and surely the Kingdom of Nebudcadnezzer fell.Daniel became well-known for his ability to interpret dreams.

“Thus there was found in this man Daniel, whom the king renamed Belteshazzar, an extraordinary spirit, knowledge, and skill to interpret dreams, solve riddles, and decipher knotty problems. Now summon Daniel, and he will disclose the interpretation.”(Daniel 5:12).

Whenever you have a dream, take is serious, pray over it.Dreams could mean a bad or good omen.So pray to break any life threatening dream,pray to God to help you understand dreams that strike fears in you. Dreams are the forerunner of what will happen in the future.Every human being dreams, but do we take it serious?. Can you remember dreaming a more vivid dream that you thought it was real till you woke up to find out it was just a dream?.Oh uh,that is not “just” a dream, it has meaning. And it takes the spirit of God to decipher. If you are a Christian you can ask God to reveal the meaning of your dreams to you or you tell your pastor to help you understand. Just like the above examples from Solomon,Joseph and Daniel, they proved to us that dreams come true.Some dreams are very scary, my dear reader, don’t sit there unconcerned. People have dreamt of their failure,destruction or death and they had it as such, others dreamed of their success, promotions, happiness and it happened to them as such. This is the power of dreams.Dreams come true.

Did you find this article helpful?,If so don’t forget to share with friends to remind them how important dreams are.I would also like to see you share your thoughts in the comment box.

Life Is Simple – You Can't Impress Everyone

In life,whatever you do; some people will criticise, others too will appreciate it.Do they have to use their impressions to control your beautiful life?.Just know what to do to enjoy your life.

Life is beautiful and simple. Love it and feel happy always
Life is beautiful and simple. Love it and feel happy always

Life has it that,there are people who will love you for many reasons; and there are people who will hate your for many reasons or for no reason at all.So whatever you do will be appreciated by some people, and others too will never appreciate you. This very post is to remind you that your lifestyle doesn’t need the approval  of anyone.When you do it well people will lament, when you do not do it will people will still lament, so what do those people have to do in your life?.Nothing. Don’t listen to what people say behind your back,they don’t know about you.You know your self far better than anyone so don’t let people define you;define yourself and enjoy every bit of life.

You bought a nice clothe,you wear it fabulously but you find some friends or people talk against it,at the same time other friends will see it beautiful. Well,none of these kind of people can decide for you.Your business is not to impress them so don’t put your self in dilemma. You work very hard with all your might, but your Boss says he doesn’t see anything good in you, oh uh!,what is so painful than seeing someone nullify your good efforts?. Meanwhile other people or your coworkers will appraise you for your hard work.In this case what will be your stance?. Forget about everyone and do your best each day,show appreciation to those who see the best in you, forget about anyone who doesn’t see anything better in you. Who knows maybe those degrading every good thing you do are jealous of you.If you dare listen to their critics, you will be imprisoned by their thoughts.I mean you will become a prisoner to them because, they dictate to you who you are,what you should do and what you should not do.That is the power of manipulation. My dear,break free and enjoy what you like,or what is best for your.

Everyone has a choice and your choice shouldn’t be a bargaining platform for those around you. What you decide is final.They have nothing to do in your life choices. We are surrounded by many enemies, some disguise themselves as loving  and caring friends.So all their compliments are to distract you from enjoying  your life.Mind control is their game.Do you have any friend who is a snake in the grace or wet blanket?. Never mind their criticisms against your beautiful life.You decide, and make it final.Those who like you will always like you and those who don’t like you and anything you do have nothing good for you.It is their own cup of tea. Your beautiful life is non of their business.

There are people who got criticised or rejected for their lifestyles, but they never let that humiliation or degradation ruin their lives. They moved ahead with what they love and made it to the top.When people fail to appreciate you,don’t give up.There are many more people who love you and your lifestyle just the way you are.Yes!, just the way you are.And remember that no one is perfect.There is an African proverb that says; ” the hawk never appreciates the beautiful dance of the chick”.Nothing beautiful you do is beautiful to some  people. Forget about them.Enjoy your life.