Trust issues are very hard, it is like a secret code to decipher in life. We actually can’t trust anyone with full assurance of not being betrayed.
Trust issues are very sensitive to many people.It is so hard to trust people around you.They could be friends, boyfriends,girlfriends,family members, coworkers, politicians, and strangers. Often,we hear people say “trust me”, but you will get stuck between two big oceans making us question our conscience that “does it worth?.Personally, I prefer to believe in people than to trust them, and I hardly use the phrase “trust me”.I am simply not a fan of that,because I know I am fallible.Let me help you understand the difference between trust and believe.To believe means, you accept that something is true without any prove but to trust someone, you completely rely on that person with confidence. Well,here I will discuss with you some of the reasons why you should not trust anyone. Although it is so hard to carry out in life,but it does us a lot of good for the following reasons:
1. Human Nature:
Human beings are not perfect, and so trusting in someone is like taking risk in your life.Our fallibility is something that cannot be erased from our lives. It is a dangerous thing to trust in a fallible being. Imperfection is the reason you should not trust anyone. But is there anyone you can trust on earth?.The only one I can assure you to trust is God and his son Jesus Christ,because he is perfect.To trust him is all about faith but not what you see.To gain trust for God,just read your bible.If someone tells you to “trust him”.First bear in mind that he is imperfect so don’t rely on him too much. Before someone earns a fellow’s trust in our modern world he or she has to go through some level of tests to prove to you that he or she is at least reliable, even that is not 100% guaranteed.
2. Character Change:
One good reason you should not trust anyone is the tendency of changes in people’s character. The person you are putting your trust in can change his or her character at any moment.So why then trust him?.It would be better to believe him than to trust him,so that when he compromises your trust you don’t feel so bad.I always tell my readers that people change in behaviour when they meet different people or change their environments.If someone is so calm and can keep secrets, he might change when he meets different people or begin to make new friends. Friends or people can influence us to change our behaviour or approach on certain situations.Let’s say you are a girl you have a boyfriend you trust so much because you have spent a couple of years together.You trusted him so much that you rubbish every bad thing you hear about him.He becomes someone like a saint or an angel to you.Well,what if he finds himself in a different environment, like getting a job at a different town or country?.There you would start becoming jealous for no good reason , knowing very well that there would be other women around who might lust after your boyfriend or probably date him.That environment and new co-workers can have greater influence on his character.If you trust too much,then you have to make yourself ready to face the consequences if that person you trust compromises your trust.
3.The Unpredicted Nature of Strangers:
People you trust can disappear at any point in time.This is very common with strangers. You meet a stranger and all of a sudden you develop trust for him because he smiled at you,said sugar-coated words to you,promised to take you to heaven,and so on and so forth. If you allow that person to earn your trust, in betrayal where are you going to find him?.Maybe, he is a scammer or an outcast. At least let your trust be expensive for everyone before they earn it.In this modern world,do you think it is good to trust people?.Many people have trusted strangers because of the kind of convincing words they used to lure them.The end result is very pathetic.
4.The Danger Zone:
Here, I call it danger zone because it is about the negative effects of trust betrayal. I said earlier that before you even trust anyone make sure you can handle the consequences. Some of the negative effects that can happen to you when someone betrays your trust include; broken heart,mental disorder, emotional pains,sense of dejection and suicidal thoughts.when someone compromises your trust it feels so painful that it can take your life away.Did I recommend you not to trust anyone?. Yes I did.If you can handle any of the above consequences then you can go ahead and trust.
I actually don’t mean,there are no trustworthy people in this world. They are, but you would rarely see one.It is so hard, so to avoid any damages to your very life, avoid trusting people. If you want to trust someone, that is a form of risk taking. Make sure that person works hard to earn your trust and even that, you shouldn’t give him a hundred percent trust. Life is full of uncertainties.
I watched a very interesting funny video.In the video a man took his son to the field,made him climb a ladder and asked him, “do you trust me son?”.”Yes Dad”,he responded. Then the man said, “fall in my arm”.The son left himself off the ladder and the father left him to fall,saying;”you shouldn’t trust anyone”.This lesson goes to all of us,even those people close to us could be dangerous.I mean snakes in the grass. You can’t trust them.Simply because, they are human beings and can break your trust.After breaking your trust, they will simply apologise and that apology can’t resolve the pains and damages inflicted on you.There is a local African proverb that goes like.”You can’t look into a bottle with both eyes”.Only one eye can do that and the other eye will be like a spare tyre. Just like it is advisable to have a spare tyre in your car,should if one gets burst on the road then you can replace it.That is a good idea not to trust your car tyres too much.
Sometimes,people tell us not to trust anyone.Judas betrayed Jesus Christ although he was part of his inner circle.He ate with him,talked with him,lived life together but at the end he betrayed Jesus. Friends and everyone who is close to us actually know our strengths and weaknesses. They can capitalize on your weakness and harm you so easily. Thieves normally get tip offs from someone close to the victim. So trusting people close to us is sometimes dangerous so far as you can’t read their minds.You are not a psychic, so why be sure that this very person doesn’t have bad thoughts of you and would never harm you.
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